Gays’ Speak Out

Homosexuals who speak out against SSM face severe criticism and persecution from peers. When it comes at such a cost we ought to listen.
Here are a few from the very brave.

Keith Mills and Paddy Manning

Shortly before the Irish referendum on same-sex marriage homosexual couple Keith Mills and Paddy Manning spoke out, encouraging people to vote no. Their four minute YouTube video is well worth viewing – Here are a few extracts.

Keith: I’m a gay man and I’ll be voting no to same-sex marriage because I believe children need a mother and a father where possible. For me, marriage is about children and the family, and not a way to measure an adult relationship.

Paddy: I’ve been gay for as long as I can remember, and I grew up in an Ireland that was ferociously hostile. I am, as far as I know, the last person arrested under the 1867 Offenses Against the Persons Act (for homosexual acts – ed.). Young, alone, terrified – that experience nearly killed me. Now I’m being accused of being homophobic because I am against the redefinition of marriage. Yeah, I’m homophobic. I scream when I pass the mirror!


A same sex relationship is different to a marriage, because marriage, at its heart, is about children, and providing those children with their biological parents. Recognising difference is not discrimination.

Paddy: There are many people who feel the same way as I do, but they are afraid to speak out because of the extraordinary bullying that’s coming from the Yes campaign. We shouldn’t bow to that intimidation…

Here is another:

Radio talkback caller “Joe”.

“I’m a family law barrister so I spent 40 years principally acting for children in the family court protecting them from abuse and so forth. As a gay man in a single-sex relationship for 22 years, I find the concept of bringing children into this relationship selfish and obscene. You bring children into relationships where they have the best possible opportunity of being nurtured in a way that is healthy, that is functional. That is with a mother and a father…”
(SFAC P 51-52)

Joe’s background as a family court barrister, combined with his long-term homosexual relationship status, makes his observation very compelling indeed.

Fashion Legends Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana

In 2015 Dolce and Gabbana commented about same-sex parenting and the artificial reproduction required for homosexuals to obtain a baby. They said: “The only family is the traditional one. No chemical offspring and rented uterus…” Gabbana had previously said: “I am opposed to the idea of a child growing up with two gay parents. A child needs a mother and a father. I could not imagine my childhood without my mother. I also believe that it is cruel to take a baby away from its mother.”

These comments provoked an angry response and boycott from entertainer Elton John, who himself has adopted two babies. His fierce reaction provoked another homosexual, Doug Mainwarring to leap to the defence of Dolce and Gabbana, saying “a mostly ignored schism within the gay community was suddenly cast in high relief. Trust me, I know. I’m a gay man opposed to gay marriage. Dolce and Gabba are bravely standing against a future of state enforced genderlessness, against a tidal wave of adult selfishness that overwhelms children’s rights and their best interests.”

Strong words indeed. And Mainwarring should know. With homosexual leanings since he was eight, he eventually married and adopted children before breaking up with his wife. But he regretted this break-up when he realised it denied his children “this most basic of children’s rights”. So, remarkably, he and his wife got back together after ten years and re-established their family, saying “our kids are happier and better off in so many ways.”

Often vilified as a traitor to the homosexual cause, Mainwarring contradicts the argument that opposition to SSM is based only on tradition or religion, saying “I’ve always been careful to avoid using religion or appeals to tradition as I’ve approached this topic. And with good reason: Neither religion nor tradition has played a significant role in forming my stance.”

(For more detail on this illuminating story see SFAC P 54f)

Doug Mainwarring is outspoken on this issue and you can find many of his opinions on Google. EG “This world does not need men to selfishly take whatever we want, especially if the price is the welfare of our children.”